Male Adult Adoptee Adopt Salon Support Group: Wednesday, March 2nd, 2022

Male Adult Adoptee Adopt Salon Support Group: Wednesday, March 2nd, 2022

FREE monthly open support group for MALE ADULT ADOPTEE MEMBERS of the Adoption Constellation.

A place for Male Adult Adoptees ONLY to come together to share stories, thoughts, feelings, and ideas, receive psycho-education, process grief/loss, and build strong bonds and connections. The group is facilitated by Josh Beckman, Adoptee and Associate Psychotherapist.

Time and place are also shown in the Events Calendar. Meetings held virtually via ZOOM until further notice.

Please register BELOW to receive your ZOOM link for the event.

Josh Beckman BIO:

As an adoptee, my clinical focus is working through the lifelong traumatic impact of adoption, abandonment or relinquishment and process unmet childhood emotional needs. I work with all members of the adoption triad and those who struggle with feelings of abandonment and feelings of disconnection. I have experience treating addiction, depression, anxiety, relationship problems, and finding relief from overwhelming psychological trauma. I use an integrative approach of psychotherapy attuned to the mind body connection. I believe in creating a comfortable and safe therapeutic environment, and developing a compassionate and trusting therapist-client relationship allowing for authentic growth. I am an advocate for self-care which includes being active, being creative, striving for personal growth, resting, eating and sleeping well and having nurturing relationships.
How to Explain Foster Care to a Child? What is Foster Care? Animation created by Jeanette Yoffe, Former Foster Youth-Adoptee

How to Explain Foster Care to a Child? What is Foster Care? Animation created by Jeanette Yoffe, Former Foster Youth-Adoptee

In 2021 Founder of Celia Center, Jeanette Yoffe, created an animation to help children understand What is Foster Care, by explaining what happens behind the scenes in a court of law, and how social workers and judges make decisions to provide for the health, safety, and well-being of the child while supporting their families with their case plan, and showing the process by which a child is placed into a foster home.

Check out her new Book What is Foster Care? For Kids now available on Amazon.

Proceeds help support the mission of Celia Center. 

New Children's Book! by Jeanette Yoffe

Here are Some Tips for Telling a Child Their Story by Jeanette Yoffe M.F.T. :

  • Don’t try to fix the pain in foster care. It’s painful and they need your attention, listening ear, and empathy.

  • Get comfortable with initiating the conversation about foster care.

  • Don’t lie to a child about the past or a birth family member. Do not paint the parent in a negative light.

  • Share information in a developmentally age appropriate way. Omissions are okay until age 12, then by adolescence all information is best to be shared.

  • Allow anger to be expressed toward a birth family member without joining in.

  • Consider asking questions instead of telling. “Do you have questions? What do you remember? ” “Do you have any questions, thoughts or concerns about your birth family?” “Do you wonder about them? Now that you are older, I bet you have questions. Would you like to talk about that?”

  • It is highly encouraged a parent tells the story with a foster care competent therapist for support to relay the information.

  • If the child refuses or resists the conversation, they are not ready, try again later.

  • ASK PERMISSION FIRST before relaying information, so they feel a sense of mastery and control!

  • If the child expresses worry over the birthmother, speculating that she is dead, reassure the child that the birthmother is probably healthy and safe.

  • It is also important to reassure the child that the birthmother will not attempt to reclaim the child if there is fear—a common fear of children who were abused.

  • Even if children are not verbally expressing their thoughts and feelings, they are actively thinking about their adoption/reason for placement. This is normal for all children.

  • Relay the information, ANSWERING THEIR QUESTIONS in doses at a time. Observe-Watch-Listen then respond with: How do you feel about this? What are your thoughts about this?”

  • Depending upon their circumstance which led to foster care, help them understand the why anyone can… have mental illness or abuse or abandon their child, without relating it to their story. So they understand context first.

  • Only give as much information as the child wants, answer only the question they have asked, no further details, this will come later and can be added to the question box.

  • Place emphasis on the circumstance which led to being removed from their family of origin. Take the blame off of themselves.

Healing Series: Adoptees ON Podcast Support Groups with Jeanette Yoffe M.F.T.

Healing Series: Adoptees ON Podcast Support Groups with Jeanette Yoffe M.F.T.

illustrated Adoptees On logoJeanette Yoffe was interviewed for this podcast on February 16, 2018.

Podcaster Haley Radke invites Jeanette Yoffe to share what inspired her to begin a support group for adoptees. Discussion covers how to start your own group and best practices for peer-facilitated groups.

If starting or joining a support group feels too intimidating, don’t worry! Jeanette has a great idea for free support: find a listening partner.

— Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook

Topics Discussed:

  • Celia Center
  • The Adoption Constellation: New Ways of Thinking About and Practicing Adoption by Michael Phillip Grand
  • Using the term adoption constellation vs adoption triad
  • Adopt Salon constellation groups can include: adoptees, adoptive parents, first parents, foster youth, foster alumni, foster families, social workers, spouses, siblings
  • Suggested Support Group Rules:
  • We support each other here, we don’t fix each other – no unsolicited advice
  • Everyone gets a turn to share (5 minutes). What’s your name, what are you here for – do you have a question, do you want support for something in particular? You can share briefly about your story.
  • You can ask questions if you do want advice.
  • You can be here and not share: OWL (Observe, Watch and Listen)
  • Keep everything confidential that is shared in the group
  • We need firm and safe group rules so we don’t experience secondary trauma
  • Constellation groups help us examine adoption from multiple angles; helps in growing compassion and acknowledging it is a shared experience.
  • Celia Center support groups have been featured on OWN’s Television Show, “Raising Whitley” and TLC’s “Long Lost Family”
  • If you can’t find a group, don’t feel comfortable going to a group, don’t want to start your own… Find a listening partner! Book a regular call that is to someone who will just listen. Listen, receive and acknowledge.
  • Support groups to listen, share and support; you can also have guests come in and present, maybe for 15 minutes on different topics – mindfulness, an education piece about trauma, sharing their story… but leave space for the group to still share and discuss.
  • If a group has different members of the adoption constellation present, it’s best to have a licensed therapist to facilitate. For peer-led support, just having adult adoptees (for example) is safer.
  • Celia Center Arts Festival | Adopting Resilience, Fostering the Spirit of Creativity
  • Celia Center Arts Festival 2016 Summary Video
  • Check out adopteesconnect.com for new peer-led groups starting in the United States (started by Pamela Karanova of How Does it Feel to be Adopted)
  • If you have another resource of places to find in-person adoptee support groups, please get in touch so I can list it here.

— Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook

source: <http://www.adopteeson.com/listen/hssupport>

Post-Adoption Transitional Support – Online Video Series by Jeanette Yoffe M.F.T.

Post-Adoption Transitional Support – Online Video Series by Jeanette Yoffe M.F.T.

photo of Jeanette Yoffe seated before video camera with title Post-Adoption Transitional Support Five-Part Video SeriesFeaturing Jeanette Yoffe, M.A., M.F.T., Marriage and Family Therapist, founder and executive director of the Celia Center. 5 Hours of Continuing Education.

photo of very young girl photo of Jeanette Yoffe photo of young boy photo of pre-teen girl photo of group of three teens, one girl and two boys

See Support Videos . . .  

Post-Adoption Transitional Support Series

Featuring Jeanette Yoffe of Celia Center

5 hours of Continuing Education

  1. Watch the Videos – 1 Hour Each Module

  2. Take the Test

  3. Receive a Certificate of Completion!!!

This package includes access to all five modules of this series ($19.99 if purchased individually):