Teen Adopt Salon West LA

Teen Adopt Salon West LA

A monthly open support group for Teens who are connected by Adoption and/or Foster Care: Teen Adoptees and Foster Youth. Ages 13-17. Pizza and drinks served. NO Parents allowed!

  • When: Saturday TBD Every Month Next is MARCH 21st, 2020

  • Where: 1626 Westwood Blvd, Suite 106,
    Los Angeles, California 90024

  • 2 hour metered parking available in front of the building

  • Time: 1:00 – 2:30pm

  • Cost: $20 Suggested per Teen to support our mission to help all teens.

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  • This group facilitated by Jeanette Yoffe, Psychotherapist and Adult Adoptee or Foster Alumni Mentor.

  • MUST RSVP only 8 SLOTS AVAILABLE

  • SCHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE UPON ADVANCE REQUEST please email us at info@celiacenter.org 

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Seven Core Issues In Adoption Book Signing and Presentation with: Allison Davis Maxon, M.S., LMFT and Sharon Kaplan Roszia, M.S.  Experts in Foster Care and Adoption 

Seven Core Issues In Adoption Book Signing and Presentation with: Allison Davis Maxon, M.S., LMFT and Sharon Kaplan Roszia, M.S.  Experts in Foster Care and Adoption 

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CELIA CENTER, a non-profit Adoption, and Foster Care Support organization Presents: 

Book Signing and Presentation with: 

Allison Davis Maxon, M.S., LMFT and Sharon Kaplan Roszia, M.S. 

Experts in Foster Care and Adoption 

Authors of Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency

Hosted by:

Wednesday

March 4, 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm

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$20 with reservation

$10 for CEU Certificate 

$10 Additional for 2 Hours of Continuing Education Credit. Celia Center provides Adoption and Foster Care Education and SupportCelia Center Inc is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, CAMFT Provider #121492. The target audience is the following: educators, teachers, health providers, licensed professionals in the community: LMFT’s, LCSW’s, LPCCs, and/or LEP’s.

Coffee/Tea Snacks will be served. 

Books available for purchase $39.95. Cash or checks – NO credit cards. 

  • If you have seen the Paramount Pictures movie, Instant Family, written and directed by Sean Anders, then you are familiar with the types of challenges Maxon and Roszia address in their new book Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency: A Comprehensive Guide to Promoting Understanding and Healing in Adoption, Foster Care, Kinship Families and Third-Party Reproduction (2019)

  • According to Seneca Orange County over 50,000 children in California are waiting for a safe home and loving family. Maxon and Roszia’s work illuminates the issues and offers tools to support people who chose to adopt and the youth/children who are adopted as they develop into a family and enter as a unit into a neighborhood, school system, religious and youth organizations, and the local community.
  • Based on a hugely successful US model, the Seven Core Issues in Adoption is the first conceptual framework of its kind to offer a unifying lens that was inclusive of all individuals touched by the adoption experience.
  • The Seven Core Issues are Loss, Rejection, Shame/Guilt, Grief, Identity, Intimacy, and Mastery/Control. The book expands the model to be inclusive of adoption and all forms of permanency: adoption, foster care, kinship care, donor insemination, and surrogacy. Attachment and trauma are integrated with the Seven Core Issues model to address and normalize the additional tasks individuals and families will encounter.

The book views the Seven Core Issues from a range of perspectives including multi-racial, LGBTQ, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, African-American, International, openness, search and reunion, and others. This essential guide introduces each Core Issue, its impact on individuals, offering techniques for growth and healing.


Join Us & RSVP

$20 Fee

$10 Additional for Continuing Education Credit.

Celia Center Inc is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, CAMFT Provider #121492. The target audience is the following: educators, teachers, health providers, licensed professionals in the community: LMFT’s, LCSW’s, LPCCs, and/or LEP’s.

This event led by Jeanette Yoffe, M.F.T.,
Founder of Celia Center.

  • When: March 4, 2020

  • Time: 7:00 pm to 9:00 pm

  • All must PRE-REGISTER HERE

  • Where: Vista Del Mar 3200 Motor Ave, Los Angeles, CA 90034

  • FREE Parking next to the building.

  • For General Inquiries: Please email info@celiacenter.org


    Sharon Kaplan Roszia M.S. entered the field of foster care and adoption in 1963 and has worked consistently in both public and private agencies as well as private practice, always focusing on child welfare issues. Along with her colleague, Deborah Silverstein L.C.S.W., she developed the Seven Core Issues in Adoption, which is referenced widely in the literature of social work and is the basis of a forty-eight-hour curriculum to train social workers and therapists on the Core Issues, trauma, and attachment. It has been taught for many years in California and is presently also taught in Canada and Texas.  Sharon has lectured extensively all over the USA as well as Canada and Australia. She has written three books (The Open Adoption Experience and Cooperative Adoption and Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency), written chapters and forwards to books, written for several magazines in print and on-line, and has participated in the creation of many training videos. She appeared regularly on both local and national television shows over the years. Sharon lives what she does professionally as a foster parent, adoptive parent, a parent by birth and now, intergenerationally, with grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

     

    Allison Davis Maxon, M.S., LMFT is a nationally recognized expert in the fields of child welfare and children’s mental health specializing in Attachment, Developmental Trauma, and Permanency/Adoption. She is the Executive Director of the National Center on Adoption and Permanency and was the foster care consultant for the Paramount Pictures movie Instant Family. Allison was honored in 2017 with the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute ‘Angels in Adoption’ award and is the co-author of Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency: A Guide to Promoting Understanding and Healing in Adoption, Foster Care, Kinship Families, and Third-Party Reproduction, Jessica Kingsley Publishing 2019.
A First Birth Mother’s Heartfelt Poetry by Alison

A First Birth Mother’s Heartfelt Poetry by Alison

5 hours left…to tell my parents about you..
Today mocks my delicate mood
The clouds cry for me and together we brood
The air is calm and comfortable
But inside there’s a storm
My inside is real but outside I must perform
Everything is bleak and gray
My problems shall forever stay
I only have five hours left to keep my secrets
My tears will resemble the purest garnets
As I break down to tell my sob story
I’ll bloom at the end of the night, only for a small while, like a morning glory
5 hours left to live my life
Later I’ll be caught drowning in strife
Which the clouds cried a roaring river
I dove from the boat without signing the waiver
Now the ice water stampedes over my head
Some try to reach my, but the water pulls me deeper instead
A pestilence chokes its way down my throat
The angle of death stares at my to gloat
She won’t take me but tease me at arm’s length
I’m losing my grip as this secret drains all my strength
5 hours left for everything to be the same
5 hours left to prepare for today’s later pain
——-
The Bottle
Since that day, it’s been 16 years
That whole time, I buried my tears
With them, I filled a bottle
Combined with things that were simply awful
It was tightly capped, to make it all stop
But the pressure rose, as it filled to the top
The first layer was superficial
Day to day worries, that meant very little
They were a distraction for what laid underneath
Not far below, was my hidden grief
A layer of secrets that ravaged my body
Even though my mind stayed cloudy and foggy
This layer was older, it started at 8
Starting a cycle that decided my fate
The next layer and the decades that followed
Reinforced my need to keep it all bottled
Mixed throughout were life’s other struggles
Through which my tears continued to muddle
At the bottom was a pain
That shall forever stay
That is until I meet you someday
This layer was shoved to the bottom
With something I tried not to think about often
Compounded so hard, the tears couldn’t reach
Even though the pain continued to screech
Finally, I cracked it open
As the pain fizzled out, it let the hope in
At the bottom, this final layer was stuck
I thought about throwing it in the garbage truck
But I know I have to clean it out
No matter how much my pain might shout
Eventually, the bottle will dry
And finally, I’ll bloom like a butterfly
After 18 years, I’ll finally be ready
To fly with you, and keep you steady
I’ll take the bottle, and throw it in the ocean
Watching it drift away in the waves and their motion
We will watch the sunrise over the horizon
Together our days will begin to brighten
On grass, we will lay and look at the stars
As the clouds and storm eventually clears
To show us the sky as we watch together
And I can finally be your mother
——
Another day
Another day I sit and wonder how you are
More and more time I spend daydreaming my life away
My heart is spilled
Yet filled with your love
My stomach is empty
yet filled with knots
My fists are clenched
Yet open and waiting
My eyes are dry
Yet tears flow inside
My heart is broken
Yet sewing itself up
My mouth is screaming
Yet no sound escapes
——
The Picture … the first time I saw her as a teenager
A picture of you
A glimmer of hope
My days have been dark
Finally, you bring light
Like a look in the mirror
I can’t believe what I see
I know it’s the truth
Deep in my soul
My body speaks with authenticity
Joy fills my lungs
And my heart begins to sing
An impossibility becomes reality
I’ve awoken
And I’m still in a dream
I wonder if you feel me
Looking into your eyes
From a distance so far
But at my fingertips
As the time ticks away
And space shortens
The day will come

When a picture comes to life

——

Utter heartbreak 
A girl, a child, a mother
Who cannot seem to speak
But actions talk of pain and despair
A piece of her soul, her heart, is missing
It was carved out on a bleak November day
And left in the half-melted snow
To bleed down the sidewalk
And eventually dry
Flaking off in the wind
Leaving no trace
Seemingly gone, lost forever
The void filled with the heaviest emptiness
There was nothing there
But it weighed three tons
Incapable of moving
Unable to breathe
Crushed by the weight

Of ultimate loss

——

Searching online… 
Looking for you and I wonder
Are you looking for me?
Showering through pages
And clawing through words
That feel like a mountain
But end so abruptly
Cracking a code
Clues lead to nowhere
The only path is a bridge
That I cannot seem to cross
Maybe more notes
Can show me the way
Regardless there’s someone
I can’t walk past
You’re there, somewhere
On the other side
Can you feel me
Searching for you?
Open Adopt-ED Salon Forum – Open to the Public – Educating 1 person at a time! November

Open Adopt-ED Salon Forum – Open to the Public – Educating 1 person at a time! November

OPEN
Adopt-ED Salon Group Forum
for ANYONE interested in learning from the experience of
an Adopted Person, a Former Foster Youth, a Birth Mother or Father and
Foster or Adoptive Parent.

A small group format, which allows for participants to learn more about adoption or foster care firsthand, (via question cards) with answers given by an Adopted Person, Former Foster Youth, a Birth Mother or Father, and/or a  Foster or Adoptive Parent.

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PLEASE RSVP FOR THIS EVENT

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Open Adopt Salon was developed and is supported by the CELIA CENTER,
a non-profit Adoption and Foster Care Support organization and supported by

A place for the Adoption & Foster Care community to come together to share stories, thoughts, feelings, ideas, receive psycho-education, process grief/loss, learn about search and reunion, and build strong bonds/connections.

 Participants:  Anyone interested in learning about Foster Care and Adoption FIRSTHAND experiences!

When: WEDNESDAY, October 2nd, 2019.

Where: Vista Del Mar 3200 Motor Ave. Los Angeles CA 90034

Time: 7:30 – 9:00pm

Fee: $20 entry

$10 Additional for 2 Hours of Continuing Education Credit.

Celia Center provides CEU's in Los Angeles

Celia Center Founder Jeanette Yoffe Los Angeles provides Adoption and Foster Care Education and Support

 Celia Center Inc is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, CAMFT Provider #121492. The target audience is the following: educators, teachers, health providers, licensed professionals in the community: LMFT’s, LCSW’s, LPCCs, and/or LEP’s.

This event facilitated by Jeanette Yoffe, M.F.T., Adult Adoptee and Former Foster Youth and Founder of Celia Center.

What people are saying about Celia Center!

“I just wanted to give a big THANK YOU for allowing me to observe your group.  It was absolutely amazing, empowering and nothing that I have ever heard before.  Something of this magnitude would be so beneficial for ALL to witness, and listen to.  I can see this becoming huge.  Your influence, compassion, and empathy illuminate in every member of the group.”

-Leticia V. M.S.W., ASW, Children’s Social Worker

How to Cope with the Ups and Downs of Being a Foster Parent by Dr. John DeGarmo

How to Cope with the Ups and Downs of Being a Foster Parent by Dr. John DeGarmo

How to Cope with the Ups and Downs of Being a Foster Parent by Dr. John DeGarmo

As a foster parent, you NEED to take care of yourself.   You NEED to ensure that you are watching out after yourself, finding the time you need for you, and the help you need to care for not only the children in your home but for yourself and your family.  If you do not, all that you do will suffer.

Remember to Be in the Moment

It is important to stay in the moment, so to speak, to focus on the here and now, instead of what might happen, of what could be.  When we worry about what might happen in the future, we lose the chance and the opportunity to embrace and enjoy what is happening in the present time.  When we allow our worries and concerns to overwhelm us about future events, we do not allow ourselves to be helpful to those around us in the present moment.  As foster parents, we can’t care for, help, teach and love the children living with our family, children that need us to be with them right now, at the moment, if we are overwhelmed with things we have no control of tomorrow, next week, or next year.

Let your heartbreak

We do love them as our own, and we experience feelings of grief and loss when a child leaves our home and our family. Yet, it is healthy for us to become emotionally invested, and to become attached to the children in our home.  If we do not become attached, and hold ourselves at arm’s distance, so to speak, and try to protect ourselves, we will not be able to help the ones we are trying to care for.

Patience is a Virtue

If you are struggling with maintaining your own patience, go ahead and call your own time out.  Don’t be afraid or let your ego object to asking your spouse or partner to step in and take over a situation if you are becoming too frustrated, or feel you are losing control of your own emotions.  Tell the child that you will talk about it at a later time, allowing both you and the child to cool off.  Step outside or into another room, and give yourself time to count to ten.  Any of these are positive ways to de-escalate a situation.

Don’t Take it Personally

As foster parents, we need to keep in mind that it isn’t really about us.  The child has been abused, neglected, abandoned. There is a reason why the child living in your home has been placed in foster care. He is hurting. It’s not about us.  It’s about the child and his pain.  Even when he is yelling at you, “I hate you!” and slamming the door. His anger and emotion may be directed at you, but it’s not true about you.  Instead, his anger and pain come from someplace else.

When your buttons are being pushed, it is important to remember that you are the mature one, you are the adult, you are the parental figure.  Resist yelling back, don’t give in to the temptation to respond in anger, no name-calling from you.  Try to not respond emotionally. Instead, focus on the child’s behavior and not his emotion. Respond to why he is feeling this way, not to the words he may be yelling at you.

Your Own Support Group

I have said it over and over again; no one truly understands a foster parent like another foster parent. That’s why it is important to surround yourself with a support group of fellow foster parents, especially when you are feeling burned out. There are a number of foster parent support groups and associations across the nation. A few of these organizations may be national ones, while many others are, comprised of foster parents, like you. Either way, you will benefit by being in a support organization, as they will provide you with not only support, but information, fellowship, and important insight that will help you be a better foster parent.

Celia Center’s Support Group HERE

Sometimes, taking time for yourself also means saying “no” to the next phone call; the next placement. It is okay to say “No,” once in a while as a foster parent. It is okay for you to take time for yourself, your spouse, and your family. It is okay to re-charge those batteries. It’s okay to take some time off to grieve the loss of a child from foster care in your home, and in your life.  It’s okay to take some personal time, each day, for meditation, prayer, or spiritual time for yourself.

 

Dr. John DeGarmo is an international expert in parenting and foster care and is a TEDx Talk presenter. Dr. John is the founder and director of The Foster Care Institute. He has been a foster parent for 17 years, and he and his wife have had over 60 children come through their home. He is an international consultant to schools, legal firms, and foster care agencies, as well as an empowerment and transformational speaker and trainer for schools, child welfare, businesses, and non-profit organizations. He is the author of several books, including The Foster Care Survival Guide and writes for several publications. Dr. John has appeared on CNN HLN, Good Morning, America, and NBC, FOX, CBS, and PBS stations across the nation. He and his wife have received many awards, including the Good Morning America Ultimate Hero Award. He can be contacted at drjohndegarmo@gmail, through his Facebook page, Dr. John DeGarmo, or at The Foster Care Institute.