For decades adoption was shrouded in secrecy, shame and sealed records. In the early 1990s a new way of adoption—called open adoption— slowly began to take hold. Open adoption means that the adoptive and the birth families are known to each other and can maintain contact. Today, most adoptions are open.
A first mother shares her story about planning an adoption and speaks from the heart. This Grown in My Heart Adoption Carnival Topic was supposed to be “10 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Was Touched By Adoption”, but I can’t use the feel good wording of “touched”. I was not touched by adoption, it’s more like torched, trampled, traumatized, terrorized, tortured and torn apart by adoption.
Celia Center Is Now On a Mission to Support Adult Adoptees of California Restore Equal Access To Their Original Birth Certificates
How do we Restore Equal Access For Adoptees in California? By beginning a healthy dialogue of understanding, education and compassion for all…
Celia Center is hoping to help restore access to original birth certificates for all adult adoptees (clean adoption reform)….
During May’s National Foster Care Awareness Month, on Thursday, May 18th we had a special screening of a film that educates what foster children go through and what it will take to make a difference in their lives. Angels Nest and Celia Center Inc., co-hosted the “What It Feels Like to Be in Foster Care” event, which aimed to raise awareness and offer solutions for handling the foster care crisis in Los Angeles.
The feelings of shame haven’t disappeared, but I was able to mask them so much better with alcohol—it was a cure for all my woes! What I didn’t know was that this “healing” elixir was also poisoning me—me and the very connections I was making. Eventually, everything fell apart. And I had to find a new way to live as a sober but still fragmented person. I recovered from alcohol but it wasn’t until I recovered those other fragments of myself that I became truly whole.
This article provides a framework for setting boundaries in an adoptee and birthmother or birthfather reunion. So, both parties decide together how the relationship will be and have set goals and expectations entering into the reunion with empathy, understanding and compassion, have an open mind, and respect they will have different narratives entering the reunion.
Post-adoption services help address sensitive aspects such as trauma (young children, adults, and even parents can suffer from it), loss, separation, sense of familiarity or belonging, etc. Such services can also help children and their families address their specific needs and help family members strengthen their bond and deepen their attachment to sustain the relationship.
Making the Most of Adoption Reunion: Affirmations & Videos by Marlou Russell Ph.D. Author and Adoptee
Marlou Russell, Author of Adoption Wisdom. She is an adoptee and long time pioneer in the field of adoption sharing her reunion publicly in Los Angeles in the 90’s. In this blog, she share’s her insight, experience and wisdom about reunion relationships and you truly need to know! Also included are rare videos.
An adoptee and art therapist, Nicole Rademacher, shares her thoughts about being part of an art and adoption event titled “Adoptee Voices” in Los Angeles, which was a gathering of young adoptees and adult adoptee mentors, pre-pandemic sponsored by Celia Center in collaboration with Vista Del Mar Agency… “This is for my fellow adoptees, for my community, for my tribe. Because you get me. You do…you really do.”